Right, never lie for them, either to make them “look good” or “Grinch 2020 how the covid stole Christmas sweater“. I would add, never make negative judgmental comments about them. Allow the child to make their own conclusions. I’ve been in the situation and still am. My boy is 8 now. He never used to ask about him when he was younger and now that is he older, he’ll ask me if dad is going to call or when he’ll get to see him. I tell him I’m not sure and if he wants, he can call his dad and ask. I’m not lying for his dad anymore. I did that when he was little and I never should have. If you don’t have a visitation schedule thru the courts, get 1.